I’ve been told by family, friends, and strangers that I’m so, “lucky to have the life I have.” And while I tend to agree, they don’t always see the downside of being a military spouse.
Or I hear, “Don’t complain about your husband being gone, you signed up for that when you married him.” Um, no. I signed up for a life WITH the man I love. He just happens to be in the military. It doesn’t mean I was prepared or even wanted to be apart.
We started dating when I was 17 years old and my husband was 20 years old. The year? 2003. I had just started at a local community college in Hawaii.
Look at that? We were babies! Hahahaha. Neither of us knew how to be in a healthy relationship, nor did we know what that meant. We just knew we were infatuated with each other and wanted to spend every waking moment together.
So 7 months after meeting, we got engaged and got married! We actually got engaged on the beach. Sounds romantic doesn’t it??? Well it wasn’t. We were talking about the future and the conversation went something like this.
“We should just get married.”
“So lets get married?”
“Okay, lets get married.”
Hahaha. I don’t even know who started it, though it was probably me.
We went to get our marriage license so we could marry and on a whim decided to find a judge and elope. My rationalization was that his family was in Louisiana and couldn’t be with us in Hawaii so it was only fair that my family didn’t attend either. Dumb, right? Well it was. My family was incredibly hurt. Looking back, I can’t believe I did that to them. But we did have a wedding and reception 3 months later.
So we got married on May 12, 2004 but had our wedding on August 21, 2004.
We had our ups and downs. Lived through multiple deployments, unfaithfulness, moving away from my home in Hawaii, living in different places, and a miscarriage. Life was rough.
Then we found our way to an amazing church, Word of Life Honolulu, Hawaii. Through the guidance and council of our Life Group (bible study) leaders and the leaders of the church, we found ourselves in God. Once we worked on ourselves individually, we were able to come together and be much stronger as a couple than ever before. Our marriage was strengthened and stood strong on the foundation of God.
Though at this point it was we has just celebrated our 5 year anniversary, people would ask us if we were on our honeymoon! It was the start of our healthy marriage.
After trying to have a baby for 10 years and going through a miscarriage, I was blessed to become pregnant on my last trip visiting my husband in Turkey.
And on November 6, 2014 our son, whom we call JJ, was born. We always knew we were meant to be parents. So to have it come to fruition was a beautiful thing. By the grace of God, I grew this perfect little boy. I believe he has the best parts of each of us.
I’ll go into more detail in a later post but it afforded us the opportunity to travel around Turkey, as well as France, Italy, South Korea, Japan, Hong Kong, as well as around the United States.
That being said, being a military spouse isn’t easy. My husband has served for 15 years and we’ve been married for almost 13. We have been apart a lot during our marriage. 3 deployments, 2 unaccompanied tours, and multiple trainings where he’s been away for months at a time.
We mark our time with where we were living at the time, called Tours. It’s where the Military placed us to live for a few years at a time. Though since having our son, it seems to have been a crazy blur.
Now here we are, a few years later. JJ has just recently turned 3 years old and my husband got promoted to Master Sergeant in the United States Air Force.
Thank you for reading along and if you’d like to know more just comment or shoot me a message.